Divorce is not commonly a good situation, but when there’s a child involved, the potential damage is not just about you. If you want to avoid as many tumultuous situations as possible and protect your child, child custody mediation is way to go. Through the mediation process, parents find a way, with mediator guidance, to work together and create a plan that honors the child and their upbringing. There are a number of advantages to working out child custody in this manner. Here are a few to consider.
Child custody mediation is a collaborative effort that has one common goal in mind…the child and what is best for him or her. Unlike going to court, mediation focuses on the child and their best interests. Through the process, you can establish a parenting plan that allows both parents to be active and involved in the child’s life. Taking a former spouse to court and suing for custody can be a very messy situation.
Easier On Children
Contested divorces are hard on everyone involved and they can have a huge impact on the children in the picture as well. Despite good intentions, you realize that you have a lawyer and they are going to fight with all of their power to protect your interests.
Children can get caught in the middle of two sides fighting against one another. Child custody mediation, on the other hand, teaches your children that you and your former spouse can sit down, speak civilly, and work things out where they are involved.
Mediators Are Neutral
Well-trained mediators are professionals who do not take sides. They want to help you and your former spouse work together in order to figure out a plan. You don’t have to rehash the past or reasons you split. Instead, you will move forward and figure out new ways to work together. A lawyer is going to be on one side or the other, but a mediator is neutral and in the middle.
Mediation Is Blame Free
Whether you are blaming one another for events leading to the divorce or not, mediation focuses on moving past those issues. You need to be able to work together in order to raise your child successfully. When using a mediator, you can set aside the blame game and focus on new skills that will help you collaborate as parents. The plan you come up with is something you will both agree on and stick to over the years.
Focus On The Future
Let’s assume that parties involved love their children and everyone wants what is best for them. The mediation process focuses on the future plans of the family and the future of the children. It creates a workable plan that allows children to have relationships with both parents in a meaningful manner. Looking ahead instead of into the past will help a new type of relationship form between the parents.
Mediation Reduces Conflict
A good mediator will help you and your ex develop new skills for communicating with one another. Over time, this will considerably reduce the stress on all of you. When you and your ex are no longer arguing over the past, it’s a lot easier to focus on what’s best for the children in the “here and now.”
Mediation Reduces Stress
The stress that weighs on you during a divorce can lead to insomnia, the inability to concentrate, and increased impatience with your children. As long as you remain in a constant state of conflict with your ex, this response is natural. Child custody mediation will lower your overall stress by giving you the tools to work through your conflicts and give you a hopeful outlook on the future.
Mediation Helps You Create an Effective Working Relationship With Your Ex
This is one of the most important aspects of learning to work together in raising your children. Through mediation, you will learn to communicate effectively with one another and create a workable plan for the future.
Mediation is less costly
When you work with a lawyer, you pay him or her by the hour to represent your interests. Since your ex is also paying a lawyer for to represent his or her interests, the amount of time it takes to reach a consensus builds and the end result becomes extremely costly.
Mediation creates a win-win result
The focus of mediation is to create a plan that is best for the children. We know that in non-abusive situations, it is best for children to have access to both of their parents. The process of child custody mediation side-steps a lot unnecessary arguing and helps parents create a working relationship through which the children can thrive.